Male or female, we’ve all wondered if we’re going to “make it” and we’ve felt the hustle, the pressure, the rush to ”make it” as quickly as possible, before our flower wilts. I hear this story in John Mayer’s lyrics.
“Some of us, we're hardly ever here
The rest of us, we're born to disappear
How do I stop myself from being just a number
How will I hold my head to keep from going under.”
- John Mayer, Vultures
And even once he’s “made it” — Can we all agree that John Mayer has “made it” by most people’s standards? — he writes lyrics like…
“There I just said it, I'm scared you'll forget about me.”
— John Mayer, Edge of Desire
Is he singing to a girl or to his fans? What’s the difference when it means the same thing? We want something and we get it and we wonder if we would be happier with something else. Once we accomplish something, we’re onto the next thing. What does it mean to “make it”? Performing on a big stage? Being CEO? Being a mom? Performing and being a mom? There’s no one definition. More from John…
“Yeah I've got my dream but you've got family,
Yeah I've got my dream but I guess it got away from me.”
- John Mayer, Dear Marie
When you say you want to “make it” do you have a specific goal, destination, a definable, attainable, measurable moment when you’ll know that you have succeeded? You can say, RIGHT NOW, I am standing on the top of the mountain or the moon, I have made it. Everything up until now was the journey and now I am at the destination. Our lives move forward through these milestones which are totally worth manifesting and celebrating because they enrich us and give us something to do while we’re on this planet. However, if you cannot define your “made it” moment, and you’re pushing yourself so hard for some vague feeling in the future of possibly being worthy, enough or complete, then good luck. Now you’re wandering and hoping.
What if, it’s not about “making it” somewhere? What if it’s about “making it” however you want it to be? You are a creator. You can build, craft, shape, cultivate, form, mold, a lifestyle that makes you happy and healthy. You can “make it” (it being your life) however you want it to be. Make a life that you enjoy, that feels good, that makes you laugh, smile, play, dance, sing, and do all the happy human things that display health. What does your life look like when you follow those feelings? Let go of the vague mountain top and the wishes of “making it” somewhere you may or not even like. Embrace “making it” right here and now how you want to be. Do not wait until you’re ready, good enough, chosen, different, or older. Your right now moment, is your life and through this moment you are connected to the next moment and the moment after that. Through a string of touching moments, you are directly united with whoever you are in the future. Time and space is one. Be fully in your moment now. You’ll never “make it” anywhere unless you’re “making it” right now.
Make yourself happy and healthy. Whatever that looks like, that is your path up and down the mountain. You do not want to do all this hard work in a direction that brings you dis-ease and disease and then one day open your eyes and scream “What the fuck am I doing with my one precious life?! I’ve been so obsessed with ‘making it’ here that I never stopped to admit to myself that I don’t want to be here unless I’m happy.”
”You don't wanna be stuck up on that stage singing
Stuck up on that stage singing
All I know are sad songs, sad songs”
— Mike Posner, I Took a Pill in Ibiza