THE WORK, EXPLAINED
SOMATIC + TANTRIC PARTS WORK
WITH CHA WILDE
SOMATIC (Trust your body):
Somatic means relating to the body. Somatic practices are techniques, exercises, methods that bring awareness to physical sensations, emotions, and nervous system responses.
Parts of your mind speak through your body parts.
A lump in your throat might be a part afraid to speak up. A knot in your belly might be holding back something you're afraid to admit. Tight shoulders might belong to a part who's been carrying the weight of the whole damn world.
You can understand exactly why you're stuck and still feel your whole body slam on the brakes every time you try to change.
In our sessions, I’m constantly asking you to feel around inside your body and share with me what you’re feeling, in great detail. There are hidden messages all throughout your body. Stories that are waiting to be told.
We’re not going to go in circles analyzing why you’re stuck and struggling. We’re going to go straight to the spot where that stickiness and struggle is manifesting in your tissues. We’re going to talk to it and see what it has to say back. And yes, your body will respond when we start asking it questions. I’ll show you how to interact with it in a way that helps it feel safe enough to open up and release the tension it’s been holding.
When your body learns to trust you, you find your way into presence and freedom.
We will also refer to elements (earth, water, fire, air) — the natural forces and qualities of this world we’re living in, what our bodies are made out of. Honoring the power and guiding wisdom of our Mother Nature.
When your parts are ready to let go what they've been carrying, to release the traumatic energy from your body, you will be intuitively guided to perform rituals with the elements inside your imagination. And thus, we transmute.
You will often hear me speak of chakras — the “energy centers” throughout our body, regions where shit tons of essential nervous system activity is taking place inside your body, at hubs along your spine.
Chakras are an ancient and genius AF spiritual map of the human experience. They give us language for exploring the relationships between our bodies, emotions, instincts, desires, expression, and awareness. I use this map alongside somatic Parts Work to help us track what's happening inside you.
Whatever is happening in your mind is carving pathways in your body. We will track the physical manifestations of your emotional and mental waves, the chakra model gives us language to talk about the different aspects of being a well-balanced human.
I view all that we are as overlaid systems inside systems, bodies atop of bodies — emotions laced into muscles, thoughts weaving through breath, memories tugging on electrical currents zipping through your nervous system, dreams seeping out into the air field around you.
TANTRA (Enjoy Being Alive):
Life, truly living, feeling wildly deeply alive, is about play, pleasure, and presence. It’s a juicy experience. Full sensation in technicolor. As a woman who is both sensual and spiritual, devoted to the full top to bottom human experience, I practice Tantra.
Tantra refers to a diverse collection of spiritual traditions rooted in Hinduism and Buddhism. Depending on the tradition, practices can include meditation, breathwork, visualization, ritual, devotion, and embodied spiritual exploration.
My approach is influenced by the somatic meditation teachings of Dr. Reggie Ray, whose work draws from the Tibetan Buddhist tradition and lineage of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche.
Yes, I’m into the sexy side of Tantra too but it is more than just erotic lovemaking magic.
You're so busy managing your life, healing yourself, and keeping everyone else comfortable that you've forgotten what it feels like to actually enjoy being alive.
Tantra is a way of being — radical presence with every moment of your life. A deep listening.
Being in intimate relationship with one’s own body, desires, breath, sensations. Intentionally weaving ritual, ceremony, worship and devotion into daily life.
This includes the way we chew food, feel shower water on our skin, and listen to birds sing.
As our parts begin to trust that they’re safe inside our skin, our bodies open up to the gorgeous, simple pleasures of life.
We feel spacious enough to play. To be right here. To be wildly, deeply alive.
PARTS WORK (Lead Your Inner Family):
The human mind is multiple. It’s NORMAL to have lots of aspects of our personalities inside.
Our inner worlds are full of characters and all of them are brilliant, well-intentioned, and lovable. They function as a system, like any human group or family.
You're exhausted from arguing with yourself, second-guessing your decisions, and watching yourself do the very things you swore you'd stop doing.
This is the foundation of Internal Family Systems (IFS), a therapeutic model developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz.
Our parts carry different passions, skills, fears, beliefs, and quirks. There are protective parts burdened by heavy responsibilities they’ve picked up to help you survive the rough parts of life, vulnerable parts that are curled up with raw wounds and tender young hearts, and healthy parts just having a good time. Instead of trying to silence, fix, or overpower these parts, I’ll teach you how to communicate with them and build trust.
Beneath all these parts is the wholeness that is the steady foundation of your being, the raw essence of your life force. In IFS, we call this Self — the compassionate, curious, wise, unconditionally loving presence beneath the noise of all the parts. Self is the wellspring of healing energy. Our parts can be hurt but our Self is light within — utterly unfuckablewith.
Yep, Self is pretty fucking great. I’m obsessed. Can’t get enough Self energy in my life and this is the heart of what I’m offering to you.
Self is what we're all ultimately longing for, and the greatest news is that you already have it within you.
We just need to get to know the parts who are standing guard, because some of them haven't learned to trust your Self-leadership yet. When you're working with me, I'm sharing my Self-energy with you as you get to know your own.
IFS is a hella effective therapeutic model of the human psyche, from which I draw extensively. I’ve been studying, training and practicing IFS and Parts work since 2020. I first got into it as a patient in therapy. It gave me a language for what was coming to me naturally already. I’ve fully integrated Parts Work and specifically the somatic IFS methods into my lifestyle, my artwork, and my work in this world with women.
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